How to Network Without Feeling Scuzzy

How to Network Without Feeling Scuzzy I have spoken to a lot of women in the course of building of Fairygodboss, and I am continually surprised at how many recoil at the word networking. I ask if they do it, and most will say nowith a caveat that really means yes,or they say, not as much as I should. Heres my take on unpacking these reactions1. Yes, I network all the time =This part tends to network because its actually part and parcel of their job description. They may be responsible forreaching out to the community, to partners, orresponsible forbusiness development or promotional activities. This person works for themselves or at a small company, in PR, in an events-related industry,or may be the face of an organization.2. No, I do something else =This person does not like the negative connotations of the term networking. They think it implies self-seeking or transparently self-promotional activity with little substance, e.g. the person you meet at a conference who just shoves the ir business card in your face as if they are in a race to give away the most number of cards by the end of the day. They tell me they try to get to know people they meet, and some are very friendly and even extroverted.3. No, I dont network enough =This person tends to believe in the value of building additional professional and social relationships but does not actively engage in the activity. Primarily, it hasnt worked for her, or nobody has taught her what expectations to have, or how to even do it. This person can be introverted and often cites being too busy as the reason for low networking activity.4. No, its kind of a dirty word =I have heard this from people who work in a field or lokalitt where its very uncool or professionally de-legitimizing to admit to networking. These tendnot to be MBA graduates, and may even consider professional ambition to be uncouth. These women maywork in creative fields, tend to shun fitting into a stereotype, believe professional success is just based ontheir immediate performance,orthey see networking as a hallmark of the desperate, unemployed, and otherwise needy.Based on my interviews, my guess is that most professional women fall into categories 2 and 3. In my own career, it took me too longtostop viewingnetworking as selfishly seeking and self-promoting. However, it took only one conversation, a single statement by a former male colleague, to change all of that. He said, Let me know if I can ever help you with anything.As in any marketplace, you need both sides (the helpers and the help-ees). Networking meansgivingjust as much if not more thanreceiving. Itsabout giving someone a hand, for no other reason than its at nice thing to do and in the big scheme of things, establishing a reputation for helpfulness will never hurt you it can only help. You can start right now byjoiningour community